thoughts along the way...

kecantikan sejati seorang perempuan

2006-05-31T00:25:00.000+02:00

Proverbs 31:30 says,
“Charm is deceiving and beauty fades away, but a woman who fears the Lord deserves to be praised.”

pus..........ink

2006-05-28T21:54:00.000+02:00

djandakoembang mengalami depresi beraaaaaaaat.... beraaaaaaaaaaaaaaat..... dan beraaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaat dan butuh tong sampah yg guedeeeeeeeeeeeee dan yg paling penting...RoStFrEiiiiii...
Everything's ok,...cuman djandakoembang doank yg error,...error dan error...
Kalo something happens to djandakoembang,... call 110...
laporan selesai...

ps: bwt yg suka kartun, ade kartun indo lucu nih: story.babaflash.com trus click hal 4, yg DaNgDuT MaUt. loecoe...

God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.

Living one day at a time;
Enjoying one moment at a time;
Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace;
Taking, as He did, this sinful world
as it is, not as I would have it;
Trusting that He will make all things right
if I surrender to His Will;
That I may be reasonably happy in this life
and supremely happy with Him
Forever in the next.
Amen.

--Reinhold Niebuhr

Marriage vs Celibacy

2006-05-14T13:25:00.000+02:00

The Christian way of life does not take away our loneliness; It protects and cherishes it as a precious gift.

...no love or friendship, no intimate embrace or tender kiss, no community, commune or collective, no man or woman, will ever be able to satisfy our desire to be released from our lonely condition. This truth is so disconcerting and painful that we are more prone to play games with our fantasies than to face the truth of our existence. Thus we keep hoping that someday we will find the man who really understands our experiences, the woman who will bring peace to our restless life, the job where can fulfills our potentials, the book which will explain everything, the place where we can feel at home. Such false hope leads us to make exhausting demands and prepares us for bitterness and dangerous hostility when we start discovering that nobody, and nothing, can live up to our absolutistic expectations.

Many marriages are ruined because neither partner was able to fulfill the often hidden hope that the other would take his or her loneliness away. And many celibates live with the naive dream that in the intimacy of marriage their loneliness will be taken away.

kutipan dari buku luar biasanya Henri J. M. Nouwen, The Wounded Healer.

Let's get married!

2006-05-14T13:12:00.000+02:00

"Marital unhappiness is never caused by only one person. That's why therapists focus not on who is wrong, but what is wrong."

"It's no mistake that maturity and matrimony come from the same word."

"There is nothing in the world worse than a bad marriage, and at the same time nothing better than a good one."

"Romeo and Juliet, Lancelot and Guinevere, Rhett and Scarlett, even Jack and Rose from the cinematic tale of the Titanic -- each snuffed out their powerful love while the heat of passion was turned up full blast. Why? Because it couldn't last. The heat of passion was never meant to. Can you imagine Romeo and Juliet grocery shopping?"

"One of the best things a couple can do from time to time is review the choices they made, both good and bad, that have shaped the current state of their relationship."

"Every successful marriage requires necessary losses. For starters, marriage means coming to terms with new limits on one's independence."

"What is the most dramatic loss experienced in a new marriage? The idealized image you have of your partner."

"Love, by itself, is not enough to sustain even the most loving couple -- at least the kind of love Hollywood pumps into our culture is not enough. Marriage requires new skills in communication, conflict resolution and so on. Love cannot protect a marriage from harm. But love combined with effective skills can overcome all."

"The failure to give or receive forgiveness probably accounts for nearly every marriage that does not endure."

"Marriages can never be perfect because people are never perfect!"

Excerpted from Building Better Marriages in Oklahoma, by Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott. River Oak Publishing, Tulsa, Oklahoma, 2001.

Relationships

2006-05-08T17:21:00.000+02:00

'Treat a girl the way you would like your future wife be treated before you two find each other' - dari bukunya Robert DeMoss (terjemahan asal djandakoembang)

Mother: "Sue, thank you for this evening. It is one we both will always treasure. I want to commemorate this day and our covenant with this."
She opened the jewelry box and said,
"This locket is handmade from precious metal - just the way God made you. This locket and what it stands for is the sentinel of your heart. Here's why: from this day forward you will wear this locket as often as you wish. It will send the statement that you are waiting for your husband. It is more than that though, Sue. It has a lock on it. It can only be opened with this key. I will guard the key until your wedding. On that day, I will present the key to my little girl's heart to your husband. He will take the key and open the locket, the only one ever to do so."

Lieblingszitate

2006-04-30T23:29:00.000+02:00

'Wer die Menschen behandelt wie sie sind, macht sie schlechter. Wer sie aber behandelt wie sie sein könnten, macht sie besser.' - Goethe

Forgiveness

2006-04-19T23:02:00.000+02:00

'Forgiveness means the most and will also be easily, willingly granted, when the same mistake is (surprisingly, unexpectedly) done by self.' - djandakoembang

ukuran jari manis?

2006-04-19T20:12:00.000+02:00

Kalo apply kuliah ato audisi Musical, pasti ukuran2 body dan warna2 rambut, mata dll ditanya....kok ga skalian ukuran jari manis yah?
hehehhe...
kalo in case ada yg minat melamar, kan bisa langsung pas kayak di pelem2. hehehe...
Hidup di-pelem-kan, ato pelem di-hidup-kan? mana yg bener? mana yg asik?

just one of my silly thoughts..
silly?

Gratuliere buat hopenk gw yg terbukti hamil 100%!
Married life sounds interesting to those who don't have it (yet). Getting married isn't equal to having to all of a sudden bear children. What may seem terrifying isn't having a family of my own,...but suddenly having to take responsibility for others' lives too. A real horror.

Quotes of the day

2006-04-19T12:52:00.000+02:00

'It is easier to be God than to fear God.' - ?

'Real music is the place where souls communicate.' - djandakoembang

'Make-up'

2006-04-19T12:04:00.000+02:00

Apakah diri kita didefinisikan oleh 'make-up' diri?
Atau sebaliknya, apakah dgn tanpa menggunakan 'make-up' tsb, kita boleh bangga dan merasa lebih tinggi dan lebih 'kaya' dari org2 yg menggunakannya?

If this 'make-up' becomes a must, I call it vanity.
If this 'make-up' becomes a disgust, I call it pity.

pianist dan tanggungjawab

2006-04-18T18:10:00.000+02:00

Lumayan ngena jg ini tema buat gw akir2 ini.
Barusan ini gw dapet tugas ngiringin 2 session di retreat.
Although my major isn't piano and my musical skills on the piano is quite poor, I took the 'challenge'. Es war mir peinlich. Well, I should have put more effort to practise.

Yesterday, I had a Probe with a russian 'so called' concert pianist at my dorm's music room. I got her number from our hochschule's internet forum and called her a week before, asking her favour to accompany me on the piano for a 80 year old 'boy's' party this afternoon. Guess what, she played so horribly that I believe it was prima vista (please keep in mind that she got the scores a week in advance), couldn't improvise freely (a thing a real concert pianist should master), was quite rude and even told me 'small lies' (bad excuses). I, overwhelmed with headache and lack of rest, told her that üben and proben are two different things. I turned her nicely but firmly down, and promptly called 'another' concert pianist to practise and perform today. After meeting this other russian concert pianist and having a 30 minute Probe, we went to the party. Apart from the fact that she played well, she is also a nice person to be with. Everything went great, and we got our money. Mission completed. fuih..

So this is what I call irresponsibility. For having taken a responsibility and not making it to the fullest. Yes, she drove me crazy, but I also believe that I, too, sometimes am not different from her, in this case.

A lesson for me to take responsibility darn seriously.

Here we go, a daily hour merely piano-practising for miss wiryadi.

blog..

2006-04-11T09:57:00.000+02:00

Seru jg yah liat2 blog orang,..hehehe...interesting banget gimana setiap orang ngeliat hidup, ntah lampau, skg ato masa depan. Lebih interesting lagi kalo tulisan2 doi ternyata ga mecing (matching, red) ama 'stempel' kita di doi. Well, we'll never know a thing lah yah..